Giveaway: The Pocket Referee. It Saved Our Vacation (And Was Fun To Watch In Action) Ends 6/2, US

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Little Girl #1 (stamping foot):  It’s MY turn!

Little Girl #2 (stamping foot harder):  IT IS NOT!  YOU’RE NOT FAIR!  MOOOOOOOOOOO-OOOOOOOOOM!

Don’t you dread hearing that multi-syllable, eight second long, Moooooooooo-uh-oooooooom!   “Mom, she’s blah-blah-ing AGAIN.”  or the dreaded, “You always take HER side.” *sigh*

Even Princesses Fight

Rosie is an only child so I don’t hear these awful words every day, but I do hear them every playdate.  When we decided that my husband would stay home for our Disney vacation after the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration to let Rosie’s best friend go with her, I knew that we needed help.  I can survive playdates hearing the two girls argue over what seems like every little thing, but I would not last an entire week.

In steps, The Pocket Referee to save the day.  Another one of those simple-yet-genius products!  I was amazed at how this worked to keep the girls from arguing on our week long vacation.  Wow.  I was most surprised at how it worked, doing something I had never expected.  But I’m kind of jumping ahead.  Here’s the “rules” of The Pocket Referee:

1.  You flip the special coin and one child “calls” it.  (they will undoubtedly battle over who gets to “call” it.  But smile, it’s the last battle you’re going to have to settle, hehehe)

2.  The winner of the coin toss is now the “holder of The Pocket Referee”.  Rosie and Ruthie (her bff) are into “power”, so I told them that whoever holds the coin has “THE POWER OF THE REFEREE”.    (spoken in appropriate hushed tones).

3.  Whenever there is a question or a disagreement, whoever has “THE POWER OF THE REFEREE” can decide whether a) they want to win the argument and make the decision (passing the referee to the other person) or b) keep the referee for a potentially more important decision and let the other person make the decision.

This is the genius twist!  The choice of whether to use the referee or to keep it, shifts the power from the question of the argument to the question of whether to use the referee or not.  Even if the holder of the coin doesn’t make the decision in question, they DID make the decision to give up the right to decide.  Genius!  It is beautiful to watch!  I hope I explained that well enough.  You almost have to see it in action, but it is so awesome.  And I love that it teaches kids to discern what is important and what is not.  It truly surprised me that both little girls would hold on to The Pocket Referee and let the other one decide, for hours even for a whole day.

Rosie and Ruthie are six years old and I imagine that how kids use The Pocket Referee will vary depending on how old they are.  Younger children will need adult explanation, especially in the beginning, but I’m guessing that older children would be “off and running” and independently using it pretty quickly.

If you are like me, you are probably saying to yourself, well, why can’t I use any-old coin.  It won’t have the same effect as using a special coin.  Kids are funny about what they give authority to.  The more official, the more unusual something is, the more likely they are to go with it.  The Pocket Referee is very affordable at $9.95 (eligible for free shipping at and comes with a carrying pouch and instructions.  (Somehow reading “instructions” adds to the authority level, as well.)  For $9.95?  Money well-spent, I say!

One lucky Kelly’s Lucky You reader will be able to try The Pocket Referee for free.  Yay!  I am going to earn someone’s undying loyalty.  Seriously, this thing works that good.  Enter in the Rafflecopter form below.  If you can’t wait to stop your kids from arguing though, just go to and search on The Pocket Referee!  Happy Peacefulness!

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Disclosure of Material Connection: I received a product in order to write my review as part of a promotion with Living Your Moment . All opinions are mine and mine alone. I am disclosing this in accordance with FTC 16 CFR Part 255 concerning the use of endorsements and testimonials in advertising.


  1. 1
    Janet W. says:

    I read how the pocket referee turns every conflict into a win win situation!

  2. 2
    felecia says:

    They sell them in a brass or gold finish.

  3. 3

    I think this is a brilliant tool to help kids learn how to share, resolve conflict and let others have a say. It was designed by a Dad for his own kids. I have already emailed several friends to show it to them.

  4. 4

    I love the rules! Makes soooo much sense!

  5. 5
    Abbe Brown says:

    I learned that there are no losers with this guide-Genius!!!

  6. 6
    Carolyn Colley says:

    I read that it helps provides kids a process to settle disputes on their own.

  7. 7

    I read that it has gotten many awards like the PTPA Award Seal of Approval

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    I learned their products are assembled and packaged in the US. trixpixel[at]

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