Random Thoughts: Choosing Happiness?

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I’ve been struck recently by the way people choose to “spin” the things that happen to them.  Perhaps it’s all the political news that’s buzzing around because of elections.  Or maybe the social media outlets like Facebook and Twitter giving me more of an insight into differing opinions of the same event.

Whatever it is, I’m wondering how much of what we feel is a choice?  Can we choose to be happy?  Can we choose to see the good things in our life and ignore the not-so-much?

If we forgive and move on, we free ourselves from the burden of feeling wronged and hurt.  But is forgiveness always just a choice?  I find myself needing time to pass before I can forgive someone who has hurt me.  Even if I want to forgive them, when the wound is fresh, I can’t seem to do it.  I know that I’m happier when I’m not holding on to anger or resentment, but sometimes I can’t find a way to let go, even if I want to.  And after the forgiveness, when do you know you shouldn’t have that person in your life any longer.  Even if you forgive them, you know there have been multiple or repetitive intentional wrongs.  When is it time to step back and choose happiness?  Is it “holding a grudge” if you avoid someone that has hurt you repeatedly and choose a path away from them?

I’m going to try to forgive someone today, to see the positive, to choose happiness.  Join me?

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