Reprise Of A Post From My Heart: Open Letter To The Birth Mother of “Our” Daughter

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This is my favorite post, written from my heart…

To the Birth-Mother of our (yours and mine) daughter,

I am the adoptive mom of our five year old daughter. She came to my arms when she was eight months old. She came into my heart, the very first second I saw her. It was literally love at first sight. First and foremost, please know that the baby you gave birth to, is safe, loved, and treasured. She is the greatest gift I could ever imagine and I am thankful every single moment to you. If it wasn’t for your courageous choice, I know my life would never hold the joy and love it does today.

As I watch her grow and see her personality develop, her skills and amazing talents emerge, I wonder what you are like. We’ve never met and I don’t know anything about you – except what you have passed on to my daughter. Because much of who she is, is biologically inherited, I know that you must be something like her. For this reason, I’m guessing that you are beautiful, kind, smart, and fun. Your daughter is all those things and more.

I want her to know that you made a difficult, unbelievably brave decision, when you decided first to give her life, and second to let her go to another family. I can’t imagine how hard it was, and still is, to this day. It saddens me to think that she might not be here today, if you had chosen abortion. The world will be a better place because of this child. She is truly incredible. And you had enough love for her that you let her go.

I will never find the words to express my gratitude to you. The only gift I can give you in return, is to love our daughter with all my heart. To give her the best of myself, the best I can give. And I can give you a promise, that she will be loved, treasured, and cared for to the best of my ability. I hug her and tell her every day that I will love her always and forever – I wish I could do the same for you. I wish I could hug you and tell you I will be grateful – always and forever.

Adoptive-mothers and birth-mothers have an unusual bond. Realistically, there are things I will never know or share with my daughter that you have and do. There are things you will never know or share with her, that I am so blessed to have and do. But we can never be jealous of each other, because of all things, we share the most important thing of all, we both want the best for this beautiful child.

Please feel my hug and my heartfelt thanks.

Please feel the peace of knowing that your child, our child, is loved and safe and happy.

Thank you.


  1. 1
    Amanda Starr says:


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    I love this! So sweet and heartfelt!

  3. 3

    Beautiful and well written.

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    My friend just adopted her third little boy and talks about their birth mothers in the same heartfelt way. Thanks for bringing a happy tear or two to my eyes today!

  5. 5

    Lovely. And a good reminder that every time a mother makes the choice for adoption, she is blessing another mother to be!

  6. 6

    Absolutely beautiful post Kelly!!!

  7. 7

    How beautifully unselfish. This post is touching.

    Stopping by from the 100 Comments event.

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    Beautiful! I really appreciate you telling her that you know that it was a courageous thing she did by giving the baby girl up for adoption. It was and probably very hard.

    How sweet of you to say “our” baby girl.

    Still Dating My Spouse

  9. 9

    wow,. that is just so sweet. I love the post.~

  10. 10

    This is such a beautiful letter. Thank you for sharing this. :)

  11. 11

    What a wonderful letter! Your daughter will love reading it someday.

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    What a beautiful and thoughtful letter. I think of my niece and the three children she gave up. I wonder where they are and if they’re doing well. I’d like to think that someone like you got the children and that they all stayed together. Your daughter is lucky to have a mother like you. Blessings, Deb

  13. 13

    How lovely. You are blessed to have this precious gift and she is lucky to have you.

  14. 14

    What a sweet letter. Do you keep in touch with her?

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    ShellieAndBrutus says:

    Made us all misty-eyed. Also makes me miss my own mom. Great post!

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    What a beautiful letter. Did you mail it?
    What a lucky girl, to have so much love in her life-much more than she will ever know.
    Peace and good.

  17. 17

    Beautiful post! It is wonderful that there are people in the world like you who adore your adopted children.

  18. 18

    A beautiful letter. I have written several to our birth mother but they are pretty dull compared to yours. Perhaps my next one I can share a little more with her about my grateful feelings.

  19. 19

    That is very sweet!

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    Hi Kelly,
    What a heartfelt story to share with us…thank you for that.
    I’m visiting from the 100 comment event…so glad you put up this post for it.
    You have a beautiful soul…that comes shining through your post. Best of luck with your little girl. :)
    I hope you will come to visit me:

    I’m pretty sure I already follow you on Twitter…but I will subscribe to your posts as well.

  21. 21

    Beautiful story. Your daughter will forever love your for being her mom.

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    I can barely see to write this because of the tears in my eyes. Thank you God for mothers who carry their babies to term. Thank you god for adoptive families.

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    Julie@teachinggoodeaters says:

    Adoption is such a beautiful thing. What a gracious heart you have.

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    I can’t imagine what that’s like — the connection between birth and adoptive mother. You are very brave for writing such a heartfelt letter, and I can tell that you will keep your promise to love that little girl with all your heart!

  25. 25

    That’s beautiful. My mom and her brother were both adopted so I know a little about it. Keep doing a great job with your little girl!

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    What an amazing perspective! If it wasn’t for adoption we wouldn’t have some of the family members we have and I wouldn’t want to imagine it any other way. You have a beautiful spirit and your daughter is so fortunate that you found her.

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    What a beautiful post. I plan to adopt one day, so I hope to be blessed by a person so brave as the birth mother of your precious lil’ one.

  28. 28

    Beautiful! We have two beautiful children from Colombia, South America. We were given a wonderful gift from their birth mother and someday I hope to thank her.

  29. 29

    WOW that is lovely. I do hope that someday (if not already) you will let your daughter read this as I think she will greatly appreciate your sentiments!

  30. 30

    A beautiful letter!

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    Thank you for writing this. My oldest son is adopted and I have attempted to write a letter to his birth mother, many times. For some reason, I just can’t express how I feel. There is so much emotion involved that sometimes I am overwhelmed by the unique relationship I must acknowledge between the 3 of us during the letter. I know some things about my son’s bio mom and funny thing, one of the topics I am currently covering on my blog is the progress of his bio family search. He was adopted from Ukraine and we decided from the beginning we would do all we could to possibly connect him with any bio family we could find. I’m hoping and praying that his bio mom will be found and open to a relationship. If so, the only words I can muster up are, “Thank you for bringing this beautiful baby into the world. I can’t imagine life without him.” You are articulated things I’ve wanted to say, so very well. Thank you.

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    I appreciate it that you wrote this letter. You have such a big heart and you are even the best mother for these kids.

  33. 33

    Beautiful letter. My husband was adopted from birth and we hope to adopt internationally someday. Adoption is a beautiful thing and I wish more people chose to adoption for their unborn child.

  34. 34

    This is such an amazing post. Thank you so much for sharing this with us.

  35. 35

    Well written and beautiful!

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    I love your letter! Unfortunately, some parents don’t have the heart you do for the biological side.

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    This got me all teary-eyed. In a world where people are killing their children because “they wouldn’t stop crying”, I think it’s great that there are wonderful people like you who are willing to love children unconditionally whose parents are unable to care for them.

  38. 38

    This is a beautiful letter … it brought tears to my eyes. Thank you for sharing.

  39. 39

    Adoption is something close to my heart. Congratulations on having such a loving and caring heart towards her birth mom. :)

  40. 40

    What a beautiful letter! Your daughter is lucky to have you.

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    I hope every child adopted gets a parent like you! What a great example you are to other people!

  42. 42

    This is beautiful. My brother is adopted and I know my mother always felt an invisible bond with his mirth mother, though we don’t even know who she is even 35 years later.

  43. 43

    Powerful – what a great way to those that have put a child up for adoption to put their heart at peace!

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    As an adoptive mother, My Heart shares Your Heart in this post! My daughter is now 32 and I’ve always been soooo thankful that God chose Me to raise her – and thankful that a young woman could have made such a decision to give Me such a Gift… Thank You for Sharing! ;-}

  45. 45

    This is beautiful!

  46. 46

    That was really beautiful. My mom and her twin sister were adopted and they found their birth mother at the age of 55.
    You can tell that was from your heart!

  47. 47

    So sweet! I hope that lots of biological mommies get to read this post.

  48. 48

    So beautiful! Very kind of you to write this. I can’t imagine the courage it takes to give a child up for adoption.

  49. 49

    Such a beautiful letter! So heartfelt. So touching!

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    I loved this heartfelt letter to the birth mom. You are a great person for adopting.

  51. 51

    A beautiful letter! We should all remember to hug our children and tell them that we will love them always and forever every day! Thanks for sharing!

  52. 52

    Well said and I will sign up for your emails. Visiting from Blogelina but I want to stay in touch. :)

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